Rome—Just a month ago,a judge ruled a court decision that cheating partners are to be blamed for the failing marriages. The case that we are referring to was filed by a husband who caught her wife cheating, and the proofs of infidelity were found through a series of text messages that the man’s wife had sent to her secret lover.
The wife demanded that the evidence from her cell phone should not be used as an evidence as it was violating her privacy, but the judged refused and wrote the following:
“In a context of cohabitation and sharing of common spaces such as in a family home, the possibility of seeing the personal data of one’s spouse is not an infrequent occurrence, and does not necessarily signify an illicit acquisition of data.”
Well, the judge does make some sense there because it’s normal for couples to accidentally or intentionally go through each others’ cell phones, but what about a situation when a husband or wife are using a spouse spying software or some hidden camera to track each other’s personal activities?
In 2009, a couples’s case surfaced on the news about a husband who recorded her wife’s activity in the couple’s Cincinnati-area home. Not just that, there was a microphone behind the walls that recorded the sounds in the kitchen and the living room. And there was even a software on her computer that copied her instant messages and emails. The secret recordings using an app like Xnspy were continued for a month before they were finally revealed in the court room during the couple’s divorce case.
Divorce rates aren’t’ falling in U.S.
According to American Psychological Association,”In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50. However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher”
Too many affordable spouse spying software
There was an era of cassettes and tape recorders when the term spying was used only in relation to secret intelligence agencies. The last two decades has entirely changed the technology game, providing cheaper and more efficient alternatives and upgrades.
The availability of consumer-ready surveillance technology like Xnspy that can serve well as a spouse spying software makes it a little too convenient for couples to spy on each other without even getting caught. An app like Xnspy that is available for as low as $8 for a month’s subscription costs nothing more than a cup of coffee. However, cheap surveillance tools isn’t just the only reason.
The US statute is making it worse
While it’s absolutely illegal to secretively monitor someone’s activity, the U.S. statute concerning wire tapping and surveillance has some loopholes that makes it easy to monitor others’ activity. In fact, it’s permissible for a person to “monitor” activity from their legally owned devices, but with the “consent” of the individuals using them (except for in the case of minors). This may not stop people from the illicit use of monitoring apps but it’s a big convenience for all the spying app developers to come up clean without facing any legal repercussions.
Social media is a buster
If you have a snoopy partner, yes, you can blame it on the social media. Married couples and partners get to read all the kinds of fake stories and acrid experiences of deceit and lies and wrongly relate to them. “The captivity of negativity” is how we can define online platforms to be like.There is a need to create an atmosphere that can largely change this mindset. In a survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial lawyers, 80 percent of the lawyers reported that Facebook was the leading evidence in divorce cases. And with access to affordable spouse spying software, it’s just a little too easy for partners to spy on each other’s sneaky private messages and shared multimedia.
Demographics play their role too
And not to forget that demographics play their part too. The cultural values, living standards, lifestyle and education also play a part. The demographic scatter is there, but it’s uncertain which of these factors are highly correlated with the failing marriages.
Can we blame technology?
No, we can’t. Just like we don’t blame the weapon manufactures for the killings, we can’t blame technology for the increasing number of failed marriages. It’s true that spouse spying software has made it too easy for couples to spy on each other but they aren’t very extensively used. Just an unprotected device with no passcode on could be the reason. One aspect of such scenario is that we should train our kids about relationship and divorce. The question is: Are we oversharing and trusting too less?